“I love you for your heart, not your face.” That’s what Jesus said to me on a long painful drive home from youth group a couple of months ago. We all feel ugly at one point in our life. In my case, I had horrible acne, and a freshman 15 I couldn’t seem to get rid of. I remember crying out to God, “Lord I just want to feel beautiful and loved!!! I’m sick and tired of being lonely, and doing new things.” After about 10 minutes of complaining, He simply quieted me and said, “I love you for your heart, and not your face.” I immediately started laughing. I had always known He loved me, but it was un-attainable to me that He loved me despite my ugly cry, mascara running down my face, without anything to offer, broken and miserable. He still loved me. I had nothing to offer Him and He loved me. There was nothing I could do to deserve that love, and yet He felt that way about me. Little old me.
Even from the young age of 15 I remember my Mom coming in and telling me how pretty I was. At one point, after asking me to put on some more mascara or foundation, I remember her asking, “You don’t think you are beautiful do you?”
In High School a boy told me the reason he wouldn’t date me was specifically because I was not pretty. I spent the remaining part of that time trying to prove I was. It wasn’t until this year that I can serve others and think un-selfishly about myself. Because I thrive on verbal affirmation, compliments mean the most to me. God knows that.
In fact when I am ugliest, late at night, or early in the morning, those are the moments I feel the most beautiful. Why in the world would I say that? This is simply because it is during those times I am most consecrated to Christ.
Leslie Ludy, states it this way:
“A young woman who is deeply, passionately, intimately in love Jesus Christ glows with a radiance that overpowers even the most noticeable of flaws. I’ve seen many a godly woman light up an entire room with her presence. To study her closely, you would not think of her as beautiful; in fact she might even have major physical blemishes that would normally be distracting. But when a woman’s passion for Jesus Christ is so deep that it is the focal point of her existence, it effervesces from every corner of her being – and she glows with heavenly beauty. No matter what her physical flaws might be, they go unnoticed when Jesus Christ is center stage in her life.
Insecurity is simply an unhealthy focus on yourself, rather than a healthy focus on Jesus Christ. It’s something the enemy can easily use to keep us turned inward rather than outward. Just like the temptation toward any sin, we must nip thoughts of insecurity in the bud the moment they begin to arise.
As soon as the enemy comes in with whispers of, “Everyone is noticing your physical shortcomings. There is nothing attractive about you – no one wants to be around you,” your response must be immediate. Instead of entertaining those thoughts and meditating upon them, fight back with truth, scripture, and prayer!
If you begin to ignore thoughts of insecurity and deliberately choose to smile, reach out to others, and focus on being an example of Christ, you will soon realize that insecurity has no soil in which to grow. It may take some time before this principle becomes a habit in your life, but if you lean on the grace and strength of God, He will give you all that you need to triumph in this area.”
"I love you for your heart, not your face."